One of my vivid childhood memories is of my mother, depressed in her pajamas, staying in her room for weeks. I gingerly approached her, concerned, and wanting to know how she was. With a surly reply, she pushed me away. Just as suddenly, she woke up the next morning happy and delightful — as though she’d never hurt and dismissed me.
To escape the painful emotional cycles of my mother, I threw myself into the world of dance. Twyla Tharp, my favorite dancer, says “art is the only way to run away without leaving home.” Ballet academies, bloody pointe shoes, and grueling practice schedules kept my time and attention away from my home life. Dance instilled in me values I draw upon today in therapy.
I quickly learned that to be ignored in rehearsal was a bigger insult than criticism, so I strived to receive as many corrections and critiques as I could. It forever changed the paradigm of criticism from a shameful thing to a victory. While I’m not critical or judgmental, clients tell me they appreciate that I’m upfront, I tell it like it is, and I don’t waste their time. I love working with motivated clients who are passionate about learning and growing.
Through partner dance, I learned to precisely tune into my partner while remembering and strengthening my own sense of self. Dance requires impeccable attunement and has given me a sixth sense for the tension, difficulties, and challenges that remain unsaid.
In our work together, I’ll help you and your partner appreciate each other’s strengths as you develop and recognize your own. You’ll learn to find your own dance and feel supported by your partner in times of need.
I’m not the therapist for you if you don’t want to hear observations and grow from what you learn about yourself.